A little bit about NotADadfluencer
I became a first-time dad in my 40s. My wife and I got married later in life, had our first child through IVF, and now I’m learning all of this in real time: sleep schedules, bottle prep, baby gear, emotional landmines… you name it.
This blog isn’t curated for clout. It’s not a highlight reel. It’s a digital notebook for the dads who are in the thick of it. The ones who aren’t nursing, aren’t influencers, and aren’t exactly sure what they’re doing… but they’re wired to show up anyway.
What to Expect Here
This is where I share honest experiences, gear that’s actually useful, and lessons learned while supporting my wife and our newborn. Some posts are heartfelt. Some are hilarious. Some are basically me typing through sleep deprivation.
But all of it is real, and written from the point of view of the partner who’s up at 4AM asking ChatGPT “how can I help when the baby won’t sleep but my wife is exhausted and I feel kind of useless.”
Why “NotADadfluencer”
There’s something about NotADadfluencer that just resonated with me when I was brainstorming names. Because I’m not trying to be famous on Instagram, and I’m definitely not here to tell you I have it all figured out. I’m just trying to be a good husband, a solid dad, and maybe help someone else feel a little more seen.
This site exists because I couldn’t find a place where dads like me were talking honestly about the bits of fatherhood I’ve experienced so far. So I made one.
You’re welcome here, whether you’re clueless, curious, or just killing time during nap contact.
Why No Pictures?
Again, I’m not trying to be Insta-Famous. And I may want to write true things about my in-laws that they wouldn’t appreciate reading, despite (or because of) how accurately I depict them. So heads up and sorry-not-sorry in advance, you don’t get to see me or my baby.
Trust me: he’s cute, and I’m just ok. But hopefully you’re here for the honesty, not the highlight reel. So If you’ve learned only one thing about NotADadfluencer, I hope it’s that you get the real me, even if you don’t know what the real me looks like.